Time certainly seems to fly. It has been more than a month since the little ones came to live with us. Even with the late night feedings and the many struggles that never before parents might have, the last 30 some days have flown by. Things seem to be flowing like a ragging river.
When we started this process I had an image of parenting like smooth waltz, flowing across the dance floor harmoniously. Give and take. Swoosh swoosh. In reality it has been more like a baby giraffe trying to walk. We we have many of the tools to parent but when we go to use them it is more of a fumble and bumble than a swoosh swoosh. We were not unrealistic and think that things would be perfect. We expected diaper changes and crying and forgetting things that we need in the diaper bag and so on and so forth into the hundreds of other struggles. Those struggles would have went swoosh swoosh.
Fumble bumble… the kiddos have been with us for 36 days. Before I go on I want to throw out our continued disclaimer that this blog is about our experience and not intended to put anyone or anything down. We have a dear friend who is a CPS worker and we know that many of those workers have their whole heart into protecting children. They are humans who have lives and families of their own. Now as I was saying, we have had the little ones in our care for five weeks. This last week has been a rough one in the Covert house because on Wednesday the five month old had a recorded temp of almost 102 degrees. He could not return to daycare Thursday because of it and we were blessed with grandma Becky coming to stay a few days to help watch after him. One large issue (which led to the disclaimer above) came because birth mom’s scheduled visit is on Thursday. A call to the temporary worker ( the little ones still have not been transferred to a permanent worker) was placed and we let her know that the little one was contagious and if the visit should only be with their mom and the older one. The worker was annoyed that she had to make a second call to birth mom ( which is understandable especially with the increased case loads). Two more questions were asked and the response was the same with both ” you will want to ask your permanent worker.” When it was pointed out that she had access to the information it was said to her that she seems to pass the puck and she responded laughing, “yeah, we seem to do that a lot around here, don’t we?” On a positive side, we do not know the permanent worker and until we do, we will imagine they are stellar like the ones we know from our personal life.
Life does go on. We know for certain that we are trying the hardest we can with our little ones. The little one is starting to turn the corner and feel a bit better. We see lots of advancement and development in behaviors which, in part has been because of our family. We get to see smiles and personalities. We get to experience rolling over for the first time and new expressions like “ba-ba” and “na-na”. We get to fumble and bumble through life.