Here is a YouTube video of the kiddos through out this week. A little glimpse into what more time with the kiddos will be like. Enjoy, thanks for reading and watching
This holiday season has been another good one. Cheryl says, “I love watching the kiddos discover the Christmas season.” The kiddos get excited seeing so many things. Every time they see the out door lights we have a barrage of “wows” and “look, look”. They get excited with every Christmas tree they see. B-Rad loves to declare “ho-ho-ho”.
Christmas Eve we hopped in the car and went looking at the lights on the neighborhood homes. Christmas morning we woke up and had breakfast. The kiddos opened their stockings at their high chairs. After, the kiddos opened many of their gifts. In the afternoon time family came by for short greetings and then more for dinner. In all, it was a good day.
Some things we did we plan to make into a tradition. Giving the kiddos memories and making traditions has been good.
Thanks for reading. To come in the new year we hope to have more updates of the permanent persuasion.
“It’s different when they are your’s”.
Two years and a few months ago, Cheryl and I had the fortunate encounter of listening to friends talk about their own experience as foster and later adoptive parents. Long time readers might remember me writing about them. They showed us the path to fostering and took our baby puzzle blog in a whole new direction. They explained to Cheryl when she asked, “when did you feel like they were yours?” “Oh honey, they were never mine, they were gifts from God, we just got a chance to take care of them for a little while.”
On our Balck Friday we head to the stores in search of new possessions. New things that we can own. New things we can manipulate and change. New things that are ours. They can be held as a shiny new object. They can be thrown away without a second look. On this glorious discounted day we search for the deal of a life time. We search for things we can possess, things we can own.
Humans cannot be owned. “It’s different when they are your’s”. I was raised by an adopted mom. My dad was raised by adopted dad. The children who are placements in our home cannot be thrown away without a second look, therefore they are not our possession, but gifts from God.
Today, yes even on Black Friday, I am happy for things that I still long for. Many of my things are not able to be bought at a store. Today I am happy to know that God has given me many gifts. Today, I am happy to be reminded that family and friends alike, have given goods examples of the gifts I have been afforded. While others still believe “It’s different when they are your’s”, I know the things that truly matter in life are not those things that I own, they are not things I can throw away or dismiss, they are something much different then any Black Friday sale can provide
Today, remember what you were thankful for yesterday. Happy Black Friday!
As we prepare for the holiday coming this Thursday, it leads me to be introspective about the things we have experienced and are thankful for. 2015 has been another unique year. I am thankful for many things and I am sure that if I sat listing them all it may sound like everything in my life. Here are three things for our “Turkey Tuesday”.
Since last Thanksgiving, Cheryl and I have said goodbye to two of our three placements, hello to two new kiddos and grown closer to our three current placements. I am very thankful for the many gifts that each child gives us. They all have their own personalities, but in their own unique way they show us what it means to love and be loved. They grow and discover the world around them and as they do they remind me of the simple things in our lives that are just as important as the more complicated ones. Seeing the world through a child’s eye has a certain level of innocence and can un-complicate a complicated decision without even trying. I am very thankful for our three little ones with us and the two littles back home with their families.
My second Turkey Tuesday Thanks is from back in April. I spent 16 days in the hospital and another two weeks on “couch rest”. During that time a lot of the slack I left behind had to be picked up. Some of the slack was by family, some by co-workers and a whole lot by my loving wife. Cheryl was a rock who went to work, came home and took care of our kiddos and found time to take care of her emotionally fragile husband. I am thankful for the family and friends who lent her a hand in taking care of the kiddos, of the house, the dogs, and her. Cheryl went to bat for me, making sure the doctors were on track, she slept on hard chairs and she held me up. This Thanksgiving, I am thankful for all of the slack pickers in my time of need.
The third Turkey Tuesday Thanks is for the many coming changes that Cheryl and I anticipate in the coming year. We feel like we will have a more clear understanding what our “baby puzzle” picture will look like. We have been working feverishly to set ourselves up for our “domestic dad” plan and we will have a more active role in forming the people our littles are becoming. Every year there is change and I know that nothing is ever static. Having a chance to live out our goals and our plans makes me thankful.
So, from the Covert’s house and my own blogging desk, I want to wish you a very happy and healthy Thanksgiving. And that you may remember to remember the many blessings in your life. Happy Thanksgiving.
Youtube of Easter this year. Enjoy. http://youtu.be/U23kd34FRLU
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Cheryl and I are involved in a number of things in our community both professionally and within the community at large. Much of the time we are able to be a part of these groups within the context of our day, while the kiddos are at day care or while one of us is able to be at home with them as the other is not. When the community group involves both Cheryl and I we have two options 1)’ making sure it is family friendly and we all go 2) finding care takers to take the kiddos for the time. When it is the second option it is not as easy as picking up the phone and asking this family member or that close friend because the care givers have to have a minimal amount “security clearance”.
One such event (with option two) is coming up this weekend, yes over Valentine ’s Day. Knowing of our needs Cheryl and I asked our licensing agency to help us find respite care way back at the end of December. We had all the kiddos scheduled to go to our usual home. About a week and a half ago our licensing agency emailed us telling us that the family we had scheduled with were no longer available and we were out of luck.
What did that mean for Cheryl and I? Scramble time.
With only about two weeks before a Friday evening, all day Saturday and most of the day Sunday what type of person could we ask? That short of notice over a weekend when something special is going on we will have to ask someone to re-arrange their plans. So to answer the question we could only ask people who we thought would be forgiving that we would ask on such short notice and would still be willing to help out. We reached out to our Engaged Encounter group (the community group we will be involved in this weekend), however because of the specialness of the weekend all group members are in the same boat as we are, helping with the weekend. After them we had a short list of people and finally found our saving couple Crystal and Scott Bott who, because of the job backgrounds, meet the “security clearance” and were wonderful enough to rearrange their time so we can be there for 30 engaged couples.
One large topic that I don’t think Cheryl or I talk about enough on here is the need for personal and community time. As we have gone through our baby puzzle journey some times that need gets pushed to the back burners. There is always another diaper to change, another sippy cup to fill, another boo-boo to kiss, another dirty front room to clean up, another load of laundry to put over, another sink full of used bottles to scrub, another banana to slice, but there is only one full time partner through it all. For those of you on your own baby puzzle journeys (no matter where you are) take some time to remember that all parts of your relationships, your mommy roles, and daddy roles all need a little bit of nurture and care for.
And if I did not say it enough THANK YOU CRYSTAL AND SCOTT…
Thanks for reading.
It has been a while. Life is busy with three children, which I am sure more than one of you could have told anyone so I am sharing nothing new.
It is Groundhogs Day. The groundhog saw his shadow which means there will be six more weeks of winter which in Arizona means sixties, seventies and maybe some low eighties. It is going to be a rough end to winter.
Growing up I loved the Groundhog Day movie. Being a foster parent it seems like some situations are much like Bill Murray experienced. We see many of the same things happen and no matter what we do to try to “correct” something it still happens just as it would have if we had done nothing. If I wake up to “I Got You Babe” tomorrow morning I will certainly check my phone calendar to make sure it says February 3rd. Anyways… on to the updates.
A few weeks back all three of the little ones came down with a respiratory bug. Having three kiddos all sick is no fun. On that Saturday morning we went to an urgent care. Cheryl went inside and did the paper work things. I stayed in the car and had the kiddos watch “Frozen”. Surprisingly this worked like a charm. Cheryl came out and got us after about a half hour wait. We went straight back and all three kiddos were set up with meds to put them on the mend. For a solid week we were gave the kiddos those meds, it was like an assembly line. I think, in retrospect, it would have been much more complicated if one kiddo had gotten sick at a different time than the others.
Over the last week and a half we have gone from a third non crawler to a full time crawler. The little lady can go from one side of the front room to the other in less than a minute. I think that she is going to have a career in search and rescue. At the very least, she is pretty good at searching out and finding small pieces of things and cords and other things that she should not be grabbing. Pulling, eating or otherwise interacting with. She is still not super great at sitting up, but we are working hard on getting that down. It will not be too long before she is standing on her own and walking, which will be a whole different ball game.
Cheryl and I are still trying to get our schedule completely straight. Three different visit times a week that seem to happen on different days and times each week I guess will really do that to you. I think after this week all three will have parent aids. In comparing the time timing of obtaining a parent aid with our last placement all three now took about half the amount of time as it did before. Not really sure what that means other than it was quicker this time around. I think maybe in part because of changes in the overall process and possibly also because of when our first placement came into care.
We will do better with the updates in the coming weeks. Thanks for taking the time to read and the many kind comments we so regularly receive.