As the month of March rolls into its second full week, it it occurs to me that our baby puzzle updates have been short coming as of late. That is simply because there has been little change to our cases. We are still waiting for an adoption date for LR. We should hear something soon. B-Rad and sister’s court date is April 11.
The kiddos are doing well. We are learning lots of words. Personalities are coming through. We love seeing the little changes that make them who they are. We will keep everyone up to date as soon as we hear.
Below is a quick YouTube of the Littles and their 2016. Thank you for reading.
Today is Groundhog Day. I cannot go a single Groundhog Day without thinking about Bill Murrey and his desperate to escape living through a day that repeats it’s self without end. He tried so very hard to get it right, then he tried so very hard to get it wrong and still he would wake to hear Sonny and Cher sing their love ballad.
Well if you didn’t hear on the news, the groundhog did not see his shadow which tradition and lore tells us it will be an early spring. Why is that tradition? Why do we except it as fact? How in the world does one relate to the other? I have heard and read sever different explanation, but at the end I still wonder why? Why except things as fact just because that is how they have been?
As we posted, LR’s bio-parent’s rights were severed. Cheryl and I have contacted our licensing agency and an adoption attorney. From the best we can tell it will be about 4 weeks (so around the beginning of March) before our home is an “approved” adoptive home. It will then be about sixty to ninety days before the adoption date can be set (so somewhere in the start to mid May).
I can say with certainty that I am naive about the process that we were to go to for the adoption. It feels like the more paperwork we fill out the more we are asked to fill out. It feels like the closer to the end we walk the further away the date gets. I don’t believe that my own genius is anywhere close to the comic genius of Mr. Murray, but at the same time it feels a little like I imagined as a young adult that the character it Groundhog Day was experiencing.
Today we recived an email from our licensing agency with changed to the licensing requirements. Lots of changes have been happening to AZ foster care system ever since we have been involved. With the changes we see at least two areas that will most likely need to change to maintain our licenses. For me the safety and well being of the children is the most important thing. However the changes seem less about a practical application and more about changing things just so it is different. Why continue to throw hoops and hurdles. We are trying our hardest. The changes were supposed to give more support to the families and the children. The largest change I have seen has been a change it leadership reporting, very little to assist the children. Why do we settle for things to stay the same just because they are tradition or lore? Why can’t improvements be made at the practical level? We don’t need more hoops, we needs more supports.
Thank you for reading. I will post an update as we hear back from our adoptive lawyer and when we meet our new case worker. Happy Groundhog Day.
Very quick update.
Today we had a court date scheduled for LR. This was a pre-trial conference and we were told by the DCS worker and the GAL that there would be requesting a change in the case plan. Instead of the proposed agenda we found a new judge. The judge continued all of the agenda items because they are retiring soon and since there would be a new judge for the remaining parts of the case they pushed all of the items to August. So in a short statement, the update that I alluded to before actually did not occur.
On another note “LR” stands for “little roo” like “kangaroo”. Thanks for reading and the large amounts of continued support we receive.
I am going to start using “nicknames” for our kiddos so I do not have to refer to them as “the kiddo from October” or the “oldest kiddo” or the “youngest kiddo”. It is a concept that another blogger her at wordpress uses and is easy enough to follow. So
“oldest kiddo brother” = “OKB”
“younest kiddo sister” = “YKS”
“kiddo from October” = “LR” (my own nickname for her)
Tonight our worker for LR will be visiting. Cheryl and I always get nerves when someone from DCS comes to our home and not for any other reason other than the unknown. We have heard lots of whispers about a case plan being changed. We may hear more about this tonight. As I said in my last post, LR’s court date is coming up this Friday.
Monday OKB and YKS had their first visit. Some times in the past we have noticed other placements would struggle after the visit, but the kiddos seemed to do well. Their case worker dropped off lots of things that belong to OKB and YKS. It is hard to see the state by which they are delivered. Maybe it is just one of my sticking points or that we have had other placements go home, but no one’s belongings should travel in a trash bag. We were fortunate to find an organization in the valley that provides new bags (along with a bunch of other things) for kiddos in the system. I think one of the largest problems people have is just not knowing about the many services that the community will step up with.
Well that is it for now. Lots of things coming in the near future. Thanks for reading.
It has been a while. Life is busy with three children, which I am sure more than one of you could have told anyone so I am sharing nothing new.
It is Groundhogs Day. The groundhog saw his shadow which means there will be six more weeks of winter which in Arizona means sixties, seventies and maybe some low eighties. It is going to be a rough end to winter.
Growing up I loved the Groundhog Day movie. Being a foster parent it seems like some situations are much like Bill Murray experienced. We see many of the same things happen and no matter what we do to try to “correct” something it still happens just as it would have if we had done nothing. If I wake up to “I Got You Babe” tomorrow morning I will certainly check my phone calendar to make sure it says February 3rd. Anyways… on to the updates.
A few weeks back all three of the little ones came down with a respiratory bug. Having three kiddos all sick is no fun. On that Saturday morning we went to an urgent care. Cheryl went inside and did the paper work things. I stayed in the car and had the kiddos watch “Frozen”. Surprisingly this worked like a charm. Cheryl came out and got us after about a half hour wait. We went straight back and all three kiddos were set up with meds to put them on the mend. For a solid week we were gave the kiddos those meds, it was like an assembly line. I think, in retrospect, it would have been much more complicated if one kiddo had gotten sick at a different time than the others.
Over the last week and a half we have gone from a third non crawler to a full time crawler. The little lady can go from one side of the front room to the other in less than a minute. I think that she is going to have a career in search and rescue. At the very least, she is pretty good at searching out and finding small pieces of things and cords and other things that she should not be grabbing. Pulling, eating or otherwise interacting with. She is still not super great at sitting up, but we are working hard on getting that down. It will not be too long before she is standing on her own and walking, which will be a whole different ball game.
Cheryl and I are still trying to get our schedule completely straight. Three different visit times a week that seem to happen on different days and times each week I guess will really do that to you. I think after this week all three will have parent aids. In comparing the time timing of obtaining a parent aid with our last placement all three now took about half the amount of time as it did before. Not really sure what that means other than it was quicker this time around. I think maybe in part because of changes in the overall process and possibly also because of when our first placement came into care.
We will do better with the updates in the coming weeks. Thanks for taking the time to read and the many kind comments we so regularly receive.