Life Goes On

We have not posted much in the last month. Nothing in particular to post about, life seems to be as busy or more busy than usual. Lots and lots of little stresses.

In late March our licensing worker left Catholic Charities and since then we have kinda been in limbo. We have a new worker, but she is nothing like the one we had. Guess we are not good with change. Then in mid-April our CPS case worker informed us that our case was being reassigned which has brought about a new CPS worker. We have found out that the case aid will be handing over the case load in early June. Lots of roll over and transition, we are very happy to be a solid force for the kiddos in all of this.

We have encountered Child Family Team meeting, permanency hearings and will have a review board meeting next week. Most of the time, as foster parents we wait to hear what was decided for us. Reviews, diagnosis, all sorts of things that happen to us and we are not much a part of the decision making. This is ironic because through the days, weeks and months we are the ones making the small decisions and choices. Guess the small decisions and choices are our realm, but we must depend on others for the larger ones.

Through a lot of April we avoided illness; the same statement cannot be made about May. I took a go around with strep throat and just as I started to feel better, Cheryl caught the same bug. In the middle of the two of getting sick the little guy also came down with a fever, but the doc said he is too young for that type of illness. Anyway it gets said, both Cheryl and I have been down for the count since about the 8th of May.

The best part of dealing with the stresses of life and the unexpected changes is the many new things we see the two little ones experiencing. We now have 1 and three-quarters crawlers. New words are being practiced and spoken. The chorus of ABCDE… comes from the back seat rider. Very soon we will have a full-fledged walker and not just the one or two steps to and from pieces of furniture. The little guy is starting to lift his arms when I go to pick him up and has become a pro at eating baby foods who also loves his coconut water. The priceless pieces of their lives that gets shared every day is truly wonderful.

Thanks for reading and have a wonderful day.

Mothers Day

Happy Mothers Day!!!

Recently I found myself reading a fellow friend’s re-post on facebook about foster families and the holiday that is know as Mother’s Day. This was our very first encounter with such a holiday as foster parents. The piece talked about the difficulty that many foster children experience with this day. The article compared the struggles that the children have with holidays like Christmas because the many relationships. The kiddos are a bit too young for many of the expressed reasons from the article. Even though this is the case we chose to create our own day, Foster Mom’s Day. This is out of respect for any future troubles the kiddos may have with such a day.

You might have noticed that there is no apostrophe in the title; instead of “Mother’s” it says “Mothers”. Many of know someone who may have acted like a mother in our development, in an official sense or otherwise out of need. Many of us know someone who has the characteristics of a mother, but may not yet of been called one. Many of us know someone who lived their lives completely and have passed either completely raising their children or not. For all those who would, could or should be called mother; Happy Mothers Day!